I have been reading your book Language of Blood this week. A friend of mine who also adopted a Korean child recommended your book because I have had emotional ups and downs with my own adopted Korean daughter and I have always had questions that were unanaswered by Lutheran Social Services in 1972. I discovered near the end of your book that you were “created” on Sept. 26, 1972 when you arrived in Minneapolis. I have one more connection to your past. My daughter Mali was on the same plane, one of five. I stood in the VIP room with your parents at the airport but do not remember them as all memories of that night were focused on which child was mine. I was one of the parents who desperately wanted a chilld, a girl, and I didn’t care where she came from. I am miles from a bi-polar daughter whose diagnoses may be wrong. I believe a lot of her problems stem from the same detachment disorder that many adoptees (including myself) acquire when you don’t fit in. I would enjoy corresponding with you regarding the screening process we went through to get Mali, the lack of any help whatsoever ( or communication) after the fact. These things have nagged at me for years now and I wonder how I ever got through the language barrier and things in general. I am looking forward to hearing from you. Perhaps our communication will help both my daughter and I. Sincerely, Jeri Hys
Comment by Jeri Hoffman Hys — May 11, 2007 @ 6:55 am
Hi Jeri — Thanks for your message. Would you please send me a private email at jjtrenkaATgmail.com and I’ll reply to you personally? Thanks — jane
I have been reading your book Language of Blood this week. A friend of mine who also adopted a Korean child recommended your book because I have had emotional ups and downs with my own adopted Korean daughter and I have always had questions that were unanaswered by Lutheran Social Services in 1972. I discovered near the end of your book that you were “created” on Sept. 26, 1972 when you arrived in Minneapolis. I have one more connection to your past. My daughter Mali was on the same plane, one of five. I stood in the VIP room with your parents at the airport but do not remember them as all memories of that night were focused on which child was mine. I was one of the parents who desperately wanted a chilld, a girl, and I didn’t care where she came from. I am miles from a bi-polar daughter whose diagnoses may be wrong. I believe a lot of her problems stem from the same detachment disorder that many adoptees (including myself) acquire when you don’t fit in. I would enjoy corresponding with you regarding the screening process we went through to get Mali, the lack of any help whatsoever ( or communication) after the fact. These things have nagged at me for years now and I wonder how I ever got through the language barrier and things in general. I am looking forward to hearing from you. Perhaps our communication will help both my daughter and I. Sincerely, Jeri Hys
Comment by Jeri Hoffman Hys — May 11, 2007 @ 6:55 am
Hi Jeri — Thanks for your message. Would you please send me a private email at jjtrenkaATgmail.com and I’ll reply to you personally? Thanks — jane
Comment by jjtrenka — May 11, 2007 @ 10:20 am